Helping Families Become Aware of Their Important Roles in the Recovery Process
Gain the tools you need to support your loved one in his recovery process
Addiction is a family disease; the alcoholic or the addict affects members of the family unit in a very significant way. The progression of addiction fractures the value system of the addict, which, in turn, spills over into the family. Sometimes, it’s difficult for family members to recognize the roles they play.
At Little Creek Lodge, we know that addiction can pull families apart. That is why we work with the families of our residents, to give them the tools they need to rebuild their relationships. At our center in Pennsylvania, we help young men discover who they truly are, and support their efforts to learn and grow, so they are empowered to make healthy decisions. Once they leave us, they will need the support of their families. We teach you how to offer that support in helpful and meaningful ways.
Fast facts about addiction in America
Addiction is the number one disease in America. One in four adults in the U.S. suffers from addiction, and one in three families has at least one addicted member.
- Opioid-related overdoses are now the leading cause of death for Americans under the age of 50.
- Approximately half a million people abused heroin, or were heroin dependent, in 2013.
- Alcoholism contributes to 88,000 deaths per year.
- Nearly 7% of the adult population has an identifiable alcohol-abuse disorder.
- In a 2016 research paper published by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, they state 1 in 11 people will become dependent on marijuana – about 4.2 million people.
- In 2012, 880,000 people sought treatmentin the state of Pennsylvania. Although a staggering number, there also are 22 million people who have been in recovery for more than 10 years.
- According to the Coalition for Drug Abuse, Pennsylvania is in the Top 10 states for heroin overdoses.
Family awareness and involvement in the recovery process is critical to attain the best outcome. The recovery process has a 32% increase in success, as noted in national statistics, when both of a resident’s parents participate.
In our family program, we are dedicated to open, on-going communication with all of our residents’ mothers and fathers. We discuss progress and setbacks with every parent on a weekly basis. We are there to help guide you through the entire process of your son’s treatment.
Are you enabling an addict?
Enabling is when a person does something for another person, despite that other person being capable of completing the task for him/herself. Families who continue to enable their children eventually notice the children have become helpless and dependent on the caretaker. Many families, however, do not recognize their enabling behaviors. They view them as kindness, or care, or a way to make things easier on the person in recovery.
Here are some examples of enabling behavior:
- Doing your son’s household chores, instead of forcing him to care for and take pride in his own things.
- Giving your grandson money, even though he has a dependable car and the ability to work.
- Always taking your brother’s side in a fight – even when he is wrong – because you think it makes him feel less “alone.”
- Calling your son out of work “sick,” when he is too drunk or too hungover to go.
- Blaming yourself, and accepting blame from him, for his behaviors.
- Keeping your own feelings bottled up, or pushing them aside, leading to resentment.
- Overindulging other behaviors or actions, to help “keep his mind off of drugs/alcohol” – such as excessive eating, mindless video game playing, shopping binges, etc.
- Avoiding conflict altogether, for fear of a relapse.
Coming home can be a difficult adjustment for men (and women) living a sober lifestyle for the first time, but setting boundaries and rules is important for their recovery. We understand the urge to coddle your sons, and to help them avoid any more pain. What you must know, though, is this enabling behavior does everyone more harm than good.
Remember: the addicted person often sets the tone of the house. Families take on the mood of the addict, who becomes the center of attention. Everything revolves around him/her. The other children in the house do not get the same attention as the addict. Resentments form, and the home becomes divided. That is when codependency ignites; habits and rituals form in an attempt to “save” the addicted person.
Learning how to be a family again
At Little Creek, our family is rooted in trust, mutual respect and genuine compassion. Our residents are empowered to work towards what they want, and to celebrate their sober lives. We understand that for some families, this part of the addiction recovery process can be more challenging than for others – but we promise, it is always worth the effort. Being mindful of one another is an important lesson for our residents, and for their families. We can give you the tools you need to succeed, and to find a new, stronger, and healthier way to build loving relationships with your sons.
Let our Little Creek Lodge family help yours grow even stronger
Little Creek Lodge is an alcohol and drug addiction treatment center in Northeastern Pennsylvania. We provide counseling for men in treatment, and for their families. To learn more about us and what we can do, please call 877-689-2644, or fill out our contact form.